Sex Goddess Mentor

To know your body, whether you love it, criticize it, flaunt it, hide it or think some parts are great while other parts need an overhaul, is the first step to loving and respecting it. You are on your way to understanding your body’s ability to give and receive pleasure. Many women have a difficult relationship with their bodies. Some obsess about them, some neglect them and some take care of them like they are a precious possession. However you feel, like it or not, this is the body you have right here, right now.

As a sex goddess, your body is one of best tools for apprehending pleasure, connecting to others and enlightenment. Why ignore your body or dislike it when it can bring you so much pleasure?

Do you think you could honor it a little more? Take better care of it? Could you learn to really love it no matter it’s shape, size, age, fat-to-muscle ratio, or its abilities or flexibilities? It’s all you, so why not make the best of it?

When you stand in front of a mirror it is not what you see that creates how you view yourself. It is the thoughts about what you see. Did anyone tell you negative things about yourself when you were a child such as you were fat, ugly, or too skinny?  Did you hear that you would never amount to anything? I certainly hope not. This happened to me and I believed them. For a long time I didn’t like myself very much. I didn’t think I was sexy or very smart for that matter. Others could see the lovable and sexy side of me way before I could. Fortunately, I am learning to love myself and improving my self-esteem was key to my life makeover.

How can you tell when you love yourself? Think of it like a verb. What do you do for yourself to help you feel good? You know how when you first fall passionately in love with someone else? The same thing applies when you fall madly in love with you. It feels wonderful.

When you look at yourself in the mirror, do you focus on what you like or dislike? Do you see only the surface you or a deeper you? The more you see yourself in a positive light, the more likely other people will too.

For most of us, building our self-esteem and keeping it strong is usually a project that lasts years, or even a lifetime.  It can feel like taking two steps forward and one step backward. Practice daily care. Start by putting yourself first whenever possible. By all means, love others as well, but speak up for your needs. You’ll have much more to offer others if you’re coming from a place of strength, fullness and honesty.

Exercise: Rewrite your story

If someone has told you negative things about yourself, especially regarding your body or sexuality, write a few down. Now cross them out! Burn them! They are not true. Replace them with positive statements that help you feel better about yourself. Self-acceptance and a healthy body image are critical to liberating yourself from the shackles of low self-esteem and finding the freedom to unveil your inner sex goddess.

Learning to love your body can be a challenge. One study showed 80% of women are dissatisfied with their appearance. Our bodies can be a tremendous source of pain and suffering, and a tremendous source of pleasure and bliss. Your body is not your enemy or slave. Lest you forget, think about all the delicious and amazing things your body can do and feel. Why not become your body’s biggest fan and let it know you appreciate it!

The enlightened woman aspires to become the best she can be in fellatio techniques. She is keenly aware that there is incredible power in this skill.    The satisfaction you give him also reaps huge benefits in the relationship as well. Oral sex is extremely important to men because their identity is strongly associated with the  penis. A man who is deprived of receiving oral sex, especially one who enjoys and desires it, will likely feel rejected, resentful and dissatisfied. It is not uncommon for men who don’t receive oral at home to find it in other places and his partner may never be aware of it. Read the rest of this entry »

I have received hundreds of sex tips  from both my male clients and women friends, who shared what they felt were important to them. Here are a few that seem to keep getting repeated over and over.

1. Communication at all times in the relationship will enhance the sexual experience. Discuss your feelings, needs, desires, fears, embarrassments and expectations in and out of the bedroom in regard to all aspects of the relationship.

Good communication will increase intimacy and greater intimacy will lead to greater sex. Express your love and appreciation on a regular basis in and outside of the bedroom. Passion stays alive by verbalizing your desires, appreciation and love. Read the rest of this entry »