Sex Goddess Mentor

Do you want to know how to be more sexy and be more appealing? I asked dozens of my male clients what they thought made a woman sexy. I must say it was a little surprising and refreshing to hear. Almost all of them said it was a woman’s attitude and how she carried herself that made her sexy. I really expected to hear short skirts, heels and bulging necklines..LOL  How stereotype is that.

I think many of us women are not sure what makes us feel sexy. Feeling sexy can be elusive. You might wake up feeling sexy and by the afternoon you are feeling as unsexy as you’ve ever felt. It’s important to explore what makes you feel sexy and how you can feel that way more often. Part of discovering your inner sex goddess is to learn how to tap into your sexuality all the time, whether or not you plan to have sexual communion with a partner.

Feeling sexy isn’t the same thing as wanting to have sex right away, but they are linked in some way. Feeling sexy is not a certain formula, but rather a complex concoction of charisma, desire, charm, confidence, composure, conversation, cleverness, and natural attractiveness. Sexiness is a person’s ability to continually inspire the sexual curiosity of their partner, through their appearance and attitude.

How is your desire? Our sexual moods certainly change, sometimes from one moment to the next, and it’s easy to slip into, or out of sex goddess mode. Sometimes you feel geared up for a truly sacred sexual encounter, sometimes you feel like some pleasurable fun and sometimes you don’t feel like it at all! That’s all natural and normal. Feeling sexy is an attitude and a lifestyle and most of use don’t feel that way all the time. Immersing yourself in the ways of the sex goddess can up your desire as well as your courage and willingness to initiate sex when you want it. The two keys to feeling sexy are to have more sex and to live in mindful sensuality.                                              

It helps to increase your mindfulness and tune into the sensual world around you when learning what makes you feel sexy.  Be present in the moment and notice the aroma, and texture of things. When you meet people notice things about them look them in the eye when you speak to them. Being mindful of the sensual world is a big part of enjoying sexual contact as well as enjoying life itself. Here are some more ideas to feeling sexy and living a sensual life.

• Dress in a way that feels good. Wear soft pleasing fabrics, clothes that make you feel beautiful and colors you love.
• Pamper yourself; primp, touch your body, your face and hair.
• Keep your skin soft with lotions.
• Keep fresh flowers in the house
• Sleep on super soft sheets
• Let your home and body be alters of sensuality and open yourself to all the beauty the world has to offer you.

Use it or lose it. It’s a simple fact that the more you have sex (or pleasure yourself), the more you feel in the mood for sex. If you rarely have sex, your body gets out of the habit of expecting and anticipating it. You may have more difficulty having orgasms, and the idea of initiating sex may never even occur to you. Just as you exercise to keep your muscles in shape, so you can practice sexual physical fitness to keep your desire muscles primed for action.

Remember being sexy doesn’t necassarly mean your out to have sex with a partner, but the energies are related. Strive for mindfulness in you daily life, put yourself first more often and soon sexiness will be oozing from.

Are you still asking the question “where is my g-spot?” and rightfully so with all the hoopla we hear surrounding this mysterious thing that creates so much pleasure. It’s actually known as the “grafenberg spot” after gynecologist Ernst Grafenberg from Germany because in 1950 he noted that some women emitted fluid during orgasm, and he believed it came from the urethral glands. Some people claim the G-spot, which is located on the front vaginal wall, can cause you to climax, and even female fluid emission, in some cases. For few women G-spot stimulation might create a more intense orgasm than stimulating their clitoris. Not this Goddess..LOL. However, most of you won’t have an orgasm when this area is stimulated. So, don’t get frustrated trying or think somethings wrong with you if you can’t. You are perfectly normal.

It can be fun and arousing to discover your precise g-spot, or at least try. Especially, if you get your partner involved. Just try not to become fixated on achieving a sexual goal (multiple orgasms, simultaneous orgasm, g-spot orgasms) One thing I can promise is that this is the best way to NOT enjoy any sort of sexual encounter. Remember that sexual exploration is mostly about the journey, not the destination (although the destination is better than most, I’ll agree). Try not to make this another notch in your “sexually self-actualized” belt.

You can usually locate it between one and three inches inside of your vagina, toward the front, on the location of the anterior wall. Place your palm face down on your vulva and slowly insert a finger inside your vagina (use lube if you’re feeling a little dry), crooking it forward in a “come hither” motion. When you’re up to about the second knuckle you should feel a slightly bumpy or ridged area on the upper wall of your vagina. You can try stimulating this area with your fingers or a sex toy. You may find it easier to use a sex toy that has a curved shape, such as a vibrator or dildo. Some find it right away, for others it may take several tries. Don’t feel pressured because there is nothing wrong if you don’t feel immediate stimulation. This is normal.

The g-spot has a spongy area surrounding it which becomes engorged with blood when you get aroused sexually, so you may find it is easier to locate when you are turned on. The best positions for this are either lying on your back, squatting, or laying on your tummy.

A few of you might find it harder to stimulate this area with your hands. If this is the case, you can try using a dildo for assistance, and as previously mentioned, a curved dildos work best for this. Squeeze a small amount of lube onto your sex toy and insert it into the vagina with the tip pointing upward toward the top inner wall. Push it slowly inward a few inches until the tip of the dildo is touching and pressing on the front wall of your vagina.

You can try your own experiments using different motions and pressure. You may find that you like the feeling of the pressure in your vagina more, or the tingling caused by the vibration. You will soon discover which feels best to you. You may start with a back and forth or circular motion, but move toward more vigorous movements if sensations increase. You might begin feeling an increased level of intensity, tingling, maybe arousal and possibly even an intense urge to urinate. Begin playing with your clitoris in your favorite motion, and continue stroking your g-spot area until you explode in ecstasy

If you’re playing around and it’s not doing anything for you, try something else, and know that there is nothing wrong with you, and what turns us all on is incredibly individual and unique.