Sex Goddess Mentor

Has your sexual relationship been as exciting and satisfying as you would like it to be? Are you seeking ideas to spice things up?  Has your sex life become boring and routine? These are common problems among couples, however, they can be easily improved.   The following guideline will assist in you in gaining enhanced pleasure, more excitement, increased sexual satisfaction, better orgasms and deeper intimacy.

1. Avoid Complacency
Complacency in a relationship is dangerous and ultimately leads to the loss of passion and desire.  Before you know it, your sex life is a boring routine. It’s very easy, especially for those of you in long-term relationships to settle into the comfort zone that security and commitment provides.  Having great sex requires continuous, mindful effort from both you and your partner. Both must stay committed in your efforts to keep your sex life fresh and exciting.  Your sexual relationship must be a  #1 priority. Most couples find the focus on the relationship ends up on the back burner due to hectic paced lifestyles.  Sex often becomes something squeezed in whenever there is available time. Making time for quality sex is essential. The more often you partake in sex the deeper your desire will grow. The relationship must be nurtured to keep passion and excitement alive.

2. Promote Spontaneity, Adventure and Variety
It is essential to add spice to your sex life!  Dare to be adventurous and spontaneous. This will keep your relationship alive, interesting and exciting. Entice your lover with surprises and games.  Engage in sexual activities, technique and positions that are unique for you as a couple.

3. Deepen Intimacy
Sex without intimacy eventually becomes shallow and unfulfilling. Intimacy must be nurtured for a relationship to survive.  The deeper your intimacy is in your relationship the more explosive and satisfying the sex will be. Intimacy combined with explosive mind-blowing sex will cement your relationship with your lover in a very powerful way.

4. Communication
The most important element for relationships and great sex is good communication. When sexual needs and desires aren’t communicated, satisfaction diminishes.   Be open, direct and honest about what you need touched, when and how. Demonstrate if needed what level of pressure and speed you prefer. Let your partner know what words you need to hear and when and how to say them. Discuss the scenarios, techniques and positions that work best for your satisfaction. Talk about your sexual fantasies. Share with them what works and what doesn’t work for your arousal and pleasure.

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Do you know an erogenous zone is an area on the human body that has heightened sensitivity which when stimulated results in a sexual response?  This could include any and all areas of the body, however the majority of men and woman have common erogenous zones.   Read the rest of this entry »

Giving each other and every part of the body loving, sensual attention creates an ecstatic reverberation in each cell of the body. You will radiate from your core and be open to connect with your partner in ways that are deep, electric and unforgettable. Such a profound sensual experiences deserves to be done with care and focus.

Massage is an especially good thing for men to focus on. Women often need the kind of attention it gives them to feel comfortable with proceeding on to more intimate activities. The nurturing, caring-for aspect of romance is extremely important between you and your partner. You will have more interesting and intense erotic experiences if you’re involved on all levels with each other. Touch and scent are the best ways of really opening some of those deeper levels.

Step One: Make an Erotic Massage Date

I invite you to make a date with your lover to share this massage with you, and together dedicate generous time for it. Plan for at least three hours to fully savor the experience.

Step Two: Set up your Sexy Space

Create your space ahead of time to get the most out of your time together. Attend to each of the following details. You can create the space together, or one of you can set up the room as a delightful gift for you both.

Heat the room to a cozy warm temperature.

Turn off the phones and minimize other distractions.
Choose Your Music. Music is optional, although highly recommended.
Set mood lighting. Massage by candlelight is the most beautiful, but take safety precautions.
Put out your massage oil or lotion.

Step Three: Go Deep Into Your Role

What to do if you are giving:

Breathe deeply along with your partner. Give total focus to your partner, and stay present. Tap into your sensitivity.

Pay attention to your lover’s responses. Tune in and notice what your lover likes or doesn’t like. If you get insecure, say positive affirmations to yourself. Like “I’m a great masseuse,” or “My consciousness is in my hands, and I know just what to do with them.”

Be creative and make giving fun for yourself. Enjoy looking at and touching your lover’s body. Ask your lover for feedback as you go. And say, “thank you when you get it.

Move slowly. Except when your lover asks for something faster and limit chitchat.

What to do if you are receiving:

Totally receive 100%. Don’t try and give anything back while you receive. Simply lie back, and enjoy it. Breathe. The more you breathe the more fully you will feel.

Give feedback. It’s your body and your massage, so say what you want, or don’t want. Harder or softer, faster or slower. You can give feedback with your voice, with hand gestures and body language. Let yourself go. Surrender to whatever you are feeling.

Step Four: Savor the Afterglow

After the massage, you may want to give your partner time with herself /himself or you may want to snuggle together for a while. Notice how transformed you feel from when you started? You’ll likely say “I needed that.” Feel the new energy you have created in your immediate environment. Let it move through you and you through it. Enjoy your intimate connection and the good feelings it has generated in your bodies. That connection is a little bit of heaven. Say “thank you” and express what you are feeling for one another. Let the afterglow of this massage last for hours or even days.

If you have not done so already I invite you to grab your Free Sensual Massage Guide for more details about how to give a sensual massage.

Positions are important in the enjoyment and fulfillment of your sexual experience. They have a direct impact upon the pleasurable sensations you’ll experience, level of intimacy and intensity of orgasm. A satisfying, fun and exciting experience generates a sense of adventure and pure enjoyment in each other.

Positions range from tender lovemaking to the exciting and adventurous while others are suited for getting down to the business of raw carnal fucking. The information provided below is strictly a guideline. Have fun with them and invent some of your own unique positions!

Positions to Rock HER World

Generally speaking, women prefer positions that feel intimate and give them a connection with their partner. They enjoy stimulation of the clitoris and occasionally deep penetration.

Goddess Warrior
Being on top, a woman can take complete control. Having her hips in the correct position allows her to satisfy all her needs. She can lean forward a bit and by rocking back and forth on the base of the penis or pubic bone, both the clitoris and G-spot is stimulated. Men enjoy this position as it gives him a break from performing and he can watch her play and reach orgasm.

Missionary Moves
This position offers women closeness and intimacy. Adjustments during sex in this position, the clitoris and G-spot can be stimulated. This is great for men also, as it allows them a great deal of penetration and they feel in control and powerful.

Positions to Rock HIS World

Generally, men like positions that allow them to thrust, achieve deep penetration and have visual stimulation. However, when you engage in this type of position he is likely to reach orgasm very quickly, so it is best to pleasure the woman first.

Doggie Style
This position is well like by most men as it allows him to thrust with complete ease, reach deep penetration and the view is a complete turn on for him. Women can make this position more satisfying by using a vibrator on her clitoris as he thrusts.

Reverse Goddess Warrior
Men love the view as a woman straddles him backwards. He lies face up (as in Goddess Warrior) while she sits on top facing his feet. She leans forward with her hands on his legs for balance.

Fun Positions for Two

Counter Top Sex
This position is best when both of you are highly aroused and ready for action. The woman sits on a tabletop, bathroom sink, countertop or any stable surface. It provides the face-to-face intimacy she desires and incites passion quickly for both partners. Having her legs wrapped around his waist, he enjoys the sensations of deep penetration. This position allows each of you to stimulate breasts and nipples along with deep intimate kissing.

C’mon In
This is a modified rear entry position. The woman lay’s on her stomach with legs spread and the man enters her vaginally from behind. This is a stimulating position for both partners as it gives the man control, power and freedom to thrust along with visual arousal. The woman can use her fingers or a vibrator to stimulate her clitoris while he thrusts. Alternately, the man can slide his hand underneath her and stimulate her clitoris for her.

This position allows the man to stay inside, slowing pumping while stretching his entire body on top of hers. This is great for nuzzling of ears and moments of close intimacy before he pulls himself up to start thrusting again. To stimulate the G-spot, the man can pull upwards a little, place his hands near her shoulders and slide his hips forward with his hips upwards a bit while still inside of her and “riding high”. She can intensify his pleasure by tightening her vagina around his penis.

This position is also good for anal sex. All the same moves apply except the man will be penetrating the anus instead of the vagina. Anal sex when performed properly can allow her to achieve both a clitoral and G-spot orgasm simultaneously. The tightness of the anus around the penis shaft will give both partners very intense pleasure.

Let’s Get Hot & Spicy

The Leg Lock
The woman raises her legs and wraps them around the waist of the man, locking her feet together. The higher she can raise her legs, the deeper the penetration. Access to the vagina is easier for the man and locking her legs around her partner the woman can contribute to his leverage by squeezing him close r or just holding him with her thighs. Many men find the feel of their partner’s legs around them to be a real turn on. One significant drawback of this position is that some men find it results in hurried orgasms. You may find it beneficial to use this position at the end of your lovemaking..

Hot Spots

-on the kitchen counter
-bent over the table
-in the shower
-on the sofa
-on the steps
-against the wall
-hood of the car
-or anywhere you can possibly think of and get away with it!

For more great sex ideas to help keep sex from getting routine and boring, check out 500 Lovemaking Tips