Sex Goddess Mentor

Has your sexual relationship been as exciting and satisfying as you would like it to be? Are you seeking ideas to spice things up?  Has your sex life become boring and routine? These are common problems among couples, however, they can be easily improved.   The following guideline will assist in you in gaining enhanced pleasure, more excitement, increased sexual satisfaction, better orgasms and deeper intimacy.

1. Avoid Complacency
Complacency in a relationship is dangerous and ultimately leads to the loss of passion and desire.  Before you know it, your sex life is a boring routine. It’s very easy, especially for those of you in long-term relationships to settle into the comfort zone that security and commitment provides.  Having great sex requires continuous, mindful effort from both you and your partner. Both must stay committed in your efforts to keep your sex life fresh and exciting.  Your sexual relationship must be a  #1 priority. Most couples find the focus on the relationship ends up on the back burner due to hectic paced lifestyles.  Sex often becomes something squeezed in whenever there is available time. Making time for quality sex is essential. The more often you partake in sex the deeper your desire will grow. The relationship must be nurtured to keep passion and excitement alive.

2. Promote Spontaneity, Adventure and Variety
It is essential to add spice to your sex life!  Dare to be adventurous and spontaneous. This will keep your relationship alive, interesting and exciting. Entice your lover with surprises and games.  Engage in sexual activities, technique and positions that are unique for you as a couple.

3. Deepen Intimacy
Sex without intimacy eventually becomes shallow and unfulfilling. Intimacy must be nurtured for a relationship to survive.  The deeper your intimacy is in your relationship the more explosive and satisfying the sex will be. Intimacy combined with explosive mind-blowing sex will cement your relationship with your lover in a very powerful way.

4. Communication
The most important element for relationships and great sex is good communication. When sexual needs and desires aren’t communicated, satisfaction diminishes.   Be open, direct and honest about what you need touched, when and how. Demonstrate if needed what level of pressure and speed you prefer. Let your partner know what words you need to hear and when and how to say them. Discuss the scenarios, techniques and positions that work best for your satisfaction. Talk about your sexual fantasies. Share with them what works and what doesn’t work for your arousal and pleasure.

Let’s face it, keeping your relationship strong is a huge challenge. If you find you don’t have the time to be creative and spend hours every week finding new ways to surprise and be romantic. Then I recommend some of theses books that help to rekindle relationships while others add even more fun, passion and joy to them. Whether you’re dating, are newlyweds or have been married for years, these books will help bring you closer together and keep it that way.

As you enter into the menopausal stage of your life it doesn’t mean a death sentence for sexual desire and fulfillment. You can enjoy sex without the physical pain and discomfort that can come from the changes your body is going through.

Declining hormone levels are responsible for many physical changes that may lead to a decrease in libido and sexual satisfaction if you’re menopausal women. Without estrogen, the vagina is less well lubricated and the vaginal lining thins. Lower estrogen levels also decrease the blood supply to the vagina and the surrounding nerves making the vagina drier. These symptoms may contribute to painful intercourse.
However, vaginal dryness can be treated with massage oil or an oil based lubricant. It is also much more sensuous. The only time I recommend a water-soluble lubricant is when condoms are involved such as Probe, K-Y, Astroglide, or Silk.

When the vaginal lining thins it retracts and losses it’s elasticity. If you don’t have intercourse very often it can be painful when you do. I recommend you either have intercourse more frequently or make private time to pleasure yourself. Use a dildo with plenty of lubricant, penetrate the vagina and use slow in and out movements. This will help to maintain the elasticity and partner sex will be more enjoyable.Minimize any pain you maybe experiencing by using sexual positions that allow you to control the depth of penetration. You may also want to take a warm bath before intercourse to help relax and again use plenty of lubricant to help reduce pain caused by friction.

While physical changes associated with menopause may contribute to a decline in sexual activity it is difficult to say that they are the only factors that may affect sexual activity. Relationship and psychological status play an important role in both sex drive and sexual satisfaction.
Whatever the biological problem your attitude will be the most important determinant of how well you and your partner cope. At this point in life, the brain remains the most important sex organ.
Having a healthy, positive attitude will go along way in sustaining sexual satisfaction. Allow yourself to be open to your partner helping you to get into the mood. It’s important to take your time with lots of fore play to build your mood and pleasure. Enhance stimulation through the use of erotic material (videos or books); mutual masturbation and changes to your sexual routine can all help in keeping the anticipation of sex exciting.
You can practice non-coital behaviors (physically stimulating activities that does not include intercourse). Sensual massage is great for this. It promotes comfort, relaxation and intimacy for couples without having to have a sexual goal. Sensual touching can also increase communication between you and your partner.
Living a healthy lifestyle is always important. In general it can boost confidence and improve sexual desire. Regular exercise, regular sleep, and eating a balanced diet can improve your outcome.
For a lot of women these changes are still not enough for them to enjoy sex. Other options are Homeopathic and Herbal Remedies. You might want to work with someone who is knowledgeable in these fields to help you find what can work best for you.
Women who have taken Hormone Replacement Therapy (HRT) have had greater sexual activity. HRT has a positive benefit on treating menopausal symptoms in the short term. All medical treatments have advantages and disadvantages and should be discussed with you health care provider.
Remember the enjoyment of sex may have to do with attitude and continued sexual activity as with any of the age-related changes. If you have enjoyed a satisfying sex life before menopause, you have every reason to believe it will continue. Should temporary symptoms arise, they can, for the most part, be treated with natural methods. A combination of a sound knowledge of the aging process, acceptance of yourself and an understanding attitude toward your partner will enable you to learn new, creative ways of finding sexual pleasure.

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Do you want to know how to be more sexy and be more appealing? I asked dozens of my male clients what they thought made a woman sexy. I must say it was a little surprising and refreshing to hear. Almost all of them said it was a woman’s attitude and how she carried herself that made her sexy. I really expected to hear short skirts, heels and bulging necklines..LOL  How stereotype is that.

I think many of us women are not sure what makes us feel sexy. Feeling sexy can be elusive. You might wake up feeling sexy and by the afternoon you are feeling as unsexy as you’ve ever felt. It’s important to explore what makes you feel sexy and how you can feel that way more often. Part of discovering your inner sex goddess is to learn how to tap into your sexuality all the time, whether or not you plan to have sexual communion with a partner.

Feeling sexy isn’t the same thing as wanting to have sex right away, but they are linked in some way. Feeling sexy is not a certain formula, but rather a complex concoction of charisma, desire, charm, confidence, composure, conversation, cleverness, and natural attractiveness. Sexiness is a person’s ability to continually inspire the sexual curiosity of their partner, through their appearance and attitude.

How is your desire? Our sexual moods certainly change, sometimes from one moment to the next, and it’s easy to slip into, or out of sex goddess mode. Sometimes you feel geared up for a truly sacred sexual encounter, sometimes you feel like some pleasurable fun and sometimes you don’t feel like it at all! That’s all natural and normal. Feeling sexy is an attitude and a lifestyle and most of use don’t feel that way all the time. Immersing yourself in the ways of the sex goddess can up your desire as well as your courage and willingness to initiate sex when you want it. The two keys to feeling sexy are to have more sex and to live in mindful sensuality.                                              

It helps to increase your mindfulness and tune into the sensual world around you when learning what makes you feel sexy.  Be present in the moment and notice the aroma, and texture of things. When you meet people notice things about them look them in the eye when you speak to them. Being mindful of the sensual world is a big part of enjoying sexual contact as well as enjoying life itself. Here are some more ideas to feeling sexy and living a sensual life.

• Dress in a way that feels good. Wear soft pleasing fabrics, clothes that make you feel beautiful and colors you love.
• Pamper yourself; primp, touch your body, your face and hair.
• Keep your skin soft with lotions.
• Keep fresh flowers in the house
• Sleep on super soft sheets
• Let your home and body be alters of sensuality and open yourself to all the beauty the world has to offer you.

Use it or lose it. It’s a simple fact that the more you have sex (or pleasure yourself), the more you feel in the mood for sex. If you rarely have sex, your body gets out of the habit of expecting and anticipating it. You may have more difficulty having orgasms, and the idea of initiating sex may never even occur to you. Just as you exercise to keep your muscles in shape, so you can practice sexual physical fitness to keep your desire muscles primed for action.

Remember being sexy doesn’t necassarly mean your out to have sex with a partner, but the energies are related. Strive for mindfulness in you daily life, put yourself first more often and soon sexiness will be oozing from.

To know your body, whether you love it, criticize it, flaunt it, hide it or think some parts are great while other parts need an overhaul, is the first step to loving and respecting it. You are on your way to understanding your body’s ability to give and receive pleasure. Many women have a difficult relationship with their bodies. Some obsess about them, some neglect them and some take care of them like they are a precious possession. However you feel, like it or not, this is the body you have right here, right now.

As a sex goddess, your body is one of best tools for apprehending pleasure, connecting to others and enlightenment. Why ignore your body or dislike it when it can bring you so much pleasure?

Do you think you could honor it a little more? Take better care of it? Could you learn to really love it no matter it’s shape, size, age, fat-to-muscle ratio, or its abilities or flexibilities? It’s all you, so why not make the best of it?

When you stand in front of a mirror it is not what you see that creates how you view yourself. It is the thoughts about what you see. Did anyone tell you negative things about yourself when you were a child such as you were fat, ugly, or too skinny?  Did you hear that you would never amount to anything? I certainly hope not. This happened to me and I believed them. For a long time I didn’t like myself very much. I didn’t think I was sexy or very smart for that matter. Others could see the lovable and sexy side of me way before I could. Fortunately, I am learning to love myself and improving my self-esteem was key to my life makeover.

How can you tell when you love yourself? Think of it like a verb. What do you do for yourself to help you feel good? You know how when you first fall passionately in love with someone else? The same thing applies when you fall madly in love with you. It feels wonderful.

When you look at yourself in the mirror, do you focus on what you like or dislike? Do you see only the surface you or a deeper you? The more you see yourself in a positive light, the more likely other people will too.

For most of us, building our self-esteem and keeping it strong is usually a project that lasts years, or even a lifetime.  It can feel like taking two steps forward and one step backward. Practice daily care. Start by putting yourself first whenever possible. By all means, love others as well, but speak up for your needs. You’ll have much more to offer others if you’re coming from a place of strength, fullness and honesty.

Exercise: Rewrite your story

If someone has told you negative things about yourself, especially regarding your body or sexuality, write a few down. Now cross them out! Burn them! They are not true. Replace them with positive statements that help you feel better about yourself. Self-acceptance and a healthy body image are critical to liberating yourself from the shackles of low self-esteem and finding the freedom to unveil your inner sex goddess.

Learning to love your body can be a challenge. One study showed 80% of women are dissatisfied with their appearance. Our bodies can be a tremendous source of pain and suffering, and a tremendous source of pleasure and bliss. Your body is not your enemy or slave. Lest you forget, think about all the delicious and amazing things your body can do and feel. Why not become your body’s biggest fan and let it know you appreciate it!

I believe we all have an inner sex goddess deep within ourselves. Unveiling her is a choice we can make in order to experience our aliveness and true essence. Only then can she truly connect with another human being.

All that is needed to begin to unveil your inner goddess is a little attention, not necessarily to your looks or your sexual skills, (although those will be talked about in later posts), but to the depths of your inner spirit. This is where your sex goddess resides. You will find her in your body, your heart, your mind and your spirit. A sex goddess is any woman who pursues knowledge and sensuality, while balancing all the different elements of the internal self. This includes male and female energies, and the urge for creation and for destruction at every stage of the life cycle. Read the rest of this entry »