To build an intense orgasm for your partner (or yourself), bring your partner as close as possible to the edge of orgasm and keep him (or her) there, not allowing an actual release. You can keep your partner from “going off the edge” by breathing in and out of your mouth with short, quick breathes and slowing or stopping movement.

Once your partner’s energy has come down some, repeat the process. Start building them up again, getting him (or her) as close as possible to peaking without letting go. Help your partner in riding the plateau just before orgasm with breathing.

Repeat this practice several times or as many as you can stand. Each time the energy is raised up, it increases the amount of physical, emotional, and spiritual energy to be unleashed. The purpose is to build a continues increase in excitement to escalate the resulting orgasm.

The secret to building an orgasm without going past the point of no return is to know how to communicate with each other that you are close to climax. The closer you can bring them to the point of orgasm without releasing with the greatest number of repetitions of this process. The more the ecstatic energy builds, resulting in an intense, sustained orgasm.

Once you deepen the level of orgasm, the energy spreads, and the pleasure increases. The whole nervous system is thereby flooded with lifeforce.

While not every woman can achieve multiple orgasms, many women can.  It helps to know your body well and to have a partner that’s willing to do what it takes to help you have another.  You may be pretty happy that you can even have one orgasm – but you don’t have to stop there if you don’t want to.

If you’ve had trouble even having one orgasm during sex, make sure to work on that first.  Once you know how to achieve orgasm in the first place, it’ll be easier to have multiple orgasms if you want to.

When it comes to a woman’s body, it helps to remember to be gentle.  For many women, the clitoris is particularly sensitive after intercourse.  That means that rubbing it roughly is going to be uncomfortable rather than stimulating.  Your chances for multiple orgasms greatly increase if you touch the clitoris gently.

This is one of the reasons that women enjoy oral stimulation so much.  It is very gentle and allows direct stimulation of the clitoris.  The rules of chivalry state that ladies should come first, and that’s no different in the bedroom.  Allowing the female to have an orgasm first will increase the chances that she can have another orgasm later in the sexual encounter.

Take your time to achieve multiple orgasms.  The longer it takes to climax, the more intense it will be and the greater chances you have of achieving multiple female orgasms. Just before she is about to climax, slow down and stop stimulation.  After a moment or two, you can get back to business.

Some positions are better than others for multiple orgasms.  For example women tend to have a better chance of multiple orgasms if they are on top during sexual intercourse.  This gives the best control over clitoral stimulation during intercourse and allows her to make sure the g-spot gets stimulation as well.

The g-spot shouldn’t be forgotten because it opens the window to a vaginal orgasm that can be very intense and satisfying.  This is a small gland you can feel from inside the vagina a couple of inches from the opening.  Rubbing this area with fingers or the head of the penis can also help improve the likelihood of multiple female orgasms.

Variety is such an important part of your sexual relationship. Variety will keep your sex life from becoming boring and predictable. Imagine having the same meal every day. You would grow tire of it very quickly. Variety also helps maintain passion, keep sex exciting and help prevent infidelity.The danger of becoming so comfortable with your partner is that once you’ve discovered their prime hot spots, you stop exploring the erotic potential of other areas. Hot spots on a person can change over time or just even during certain times of the month. Allow for the opportunity to explore different areas regularly.

Begin with some of the obvious such as time, place and techniques. Warning! A certain amount of energy and effort, not to mention humor is necessary if you’re going to break out of a rut. Try to change the time of day when you have sex. If it’s usually night time try the morning or middle of the day. Meet at home during your lunch break and have fun to release the stress of the day.

Ideally foreplay starts long before you hit the bedroom. So, you build anticipation until you can’t wait to make love. The trick is to keep sex in the air. You have to get creative and it may not always be spontaneous like you think it should be.  Besides, there’s nothing wrong with planning sex ahead of time.

Having sex in a new place is very exciting. Get out of the bedroom if you can and use a different room in the house. Go outside, use the car, or stay at a hotel for a night. The locations are endless.

Techniques and positions

It’s important to try new positions. It keeps things interesting and you’ll find some positions feel better than others. Depending on the mood you’re will determine what positions to choose. Some positions increase intimacy while others provide deep penetration, stimulation of the G-spot or letting go of your animalistic passions. Certain positions may be used to prolong an erection or extend your lovemaking session, while others can provide you with a quickie.

•    Play sex games
•    Explore some of your fantasy’s
•    Incorporate sex toys, such as vibrators, dildo’s, feathers, and edible lubricant’s.
•    Incorporate oral sex
•    Anal sex
•    Naughty talk

Try things you’re most comfortable with, but be open minded to exploring new things.

As much as variety in the bedroom is important to having a satisfying sex life with your partner it does takes more than a technique; it requires other ingredients as well. It goes beyond the physical technique of lovemaking. It’s important to know what your needs are and getting those needs met. It’s necessary to attend to the emotional and spiritual needs as well as the physical to create a well balanced fulfilling relationship.

It’s very helpful to have a list of  sex tips close at hand that you can choose from. I highly recommend 500 Lovemaking Tips and Secrets to keep sex fun, more intmate and meaningful.

1. Avoid Complacency
Complacency in a relationship is dangerous and ultimately leads to the loss of passion and desire.  Before you know it, your sex life is a boring routine. It’s very easy, especially for those of you in long-term relationships to settle into the comfort zone that security and commitment provides.  Having great sex requires continuous, mindful effort from both you and your partner. Both must stay committed in your efforts to keep your sex life fresh and exciting.  Your sexual relationship must be a  #1 priority. Most couples find the focus on the relationship ends up on the back burner due to hectic paced lifestyles.  Sex often becomes something squeezed in whenever there is available time. Making time for quality sex is essential. The more often you partake in sex the deeper your desire will grow. The relationship must be nurtured to keep passion and excitement alive.

2. Promote Spontaneity, Adventure and Variety
It is essential to add spice to your sex life!  Dare to be adventurous and spontaneous. This will keep your relationship alive, interesting and exciting. Entice your lover with surprises and games.  Engage in sexual activities, technique and positions that are unique for you as a couple.

3. Deepen Intimacy
Sex without intimacy eventually becomes shallow and unfulfilling. Intimacy must be nurtured for a relationship to survive.  The deeper your intimacy is in your relationship the more explosive and satisfying the sex will be. Intimacy combined with explosive mind-blowing sex will cement your relationship with your lover in a very powerful way.

4. Communication
The most important element for relationships and great sex is good communication. When sexual needs and desires aren’t communicated, satisfaction diminishes.   Be open, direct and honest about what you need touched, when and how. Demonstrate if needed what level of pressure and speed you prefer. Let your partner know what words you need to hear and when and how to say them. Discuss the scenarios, techniques and positions that work best for your satisfaction. Talk about your sexual fantasies. Share with them what works and what doesn’t work for your arousal and pleasure.

Let’s face it, keeping your relationship strong is a huge challenge. If you find you don’t have the time to be creative and spend hours every week finding new ways to surprise and be romantic. Then I recommend some of theses books that help to rekindle relationships while others add even more fun, passion and joy to them. Whether you’re dating, are newlyweds or have been married for years, these books will help bring you closer together and keep it that way.

Positions range from tender lovemaking to the exciting and adventurous while others are suited for getting down to the business of raw carnal fucking. The information provided below is strictly a guideline. Have fun with them and invent some of your own unique positions!

Positions to Rock HER World

Generally speaking, women prefer positions that feel intimate and give them a connection with their partner. They enjoy stimulation of the clitoris and occasionally deep penetration.

Goddess Warrior
Being on top, a woman can take complete control. Having her hips in the correct position allows her to satisfy all her needs. She can lean forward a bit and by rocking back and forth on the base of the penis or pubic bone, both the clitoris and G-spot is stimulated. Men enjoy this position as it gives him a break from performing and he can watch her play and reach orgasm.

Missionary Moves
This position offers women closeness and intimacy. Adjustments during sex in this position, the clitoris and G-spot can be stimulated. This is great for men also, as it allows them a great deal of penetration and they feel in control and powerful.

Positions to Rock HIS World

Generally, men like positions that allow them to thrust, achieve deep penetration and have visual stimulation. However, when you engage in this type of position he is likely to reach orgasm very quickly, so it is best to pleasure the woman first.

Doggie Style
This position is well like by most men as it allows him to thrust with complete ease, reach deep penetration and the view is a complete turn on for him. Women can make this position more satisfying by using a vibrator on her clitoris as he thrusts.

Reverse Goddess Warrior
Men love the view as a woman straddles him backwards. He lies face up (as in Goddess Warrior) while she sits on top facing his feet. She leans forward with her hands on his legs for balance.

Fun Positions for Two

Counter Top Sex
This position is best when both of you are highly aroused and ready for action. The woman sits on a tabletop, bathroom sink, countertop or any stable surface. It provides the face-to-face intimacy she desires and incites passion quickly for both partners. Having her legs wrapped around his waist, he enjoys the sensations of deep penetration. This position allows each of you to stimulate breasts and nipples along with deep intimate kissing.

C’mon In
This is a modified rear entry position. The woman lay’s on her stomach with legs spread and the man enters her vaginally from behind. This is a stimulating position for both partners as it gives the man control, power and freedom to thrust along with visual arousal. The woman can use her fingers or a vibrator to stimulate her clitoris while he thrusts. Alternately, the man can slide his hand underneath her and stimulate her clitoris for her.

This position allows the man to stay inside, slowing pumping while stretching his entire body on top of hers. This is great for nuzzling of ears and moments of close intimacy before he pulls himself up to start thrusting again. To stimulate the G-spot, the man can pull upwards a little, place his hands near her shoulders and slide his hips forward with his hips upwards a bit while still inside of her and “riding high”. She can intensify his pleasure by tightening her vagina around his penis.

This position is also good for anal sex. All the same moves apply except the man will be penetrating the anus instead of the vagina. Anal sex when performed properly can allow her to achieve both a clitoral and G-spot orgasm simultaneously. The tightness of the anus around the penis shaft will give both partners very intense pleasure.

Let’s Get Hot & Spicy

The Leg Lock
The woman raises her legs and wraps them around the waist of the man, locking her feet together. The higher she can raise her legs, the deeper the penetration. Access to the vagina is easier for the man and locking her legs around her partner the woman can contribute to his leverage by squeezing him close r or just holding him with her thighs. Many men find the feel of their partner’s legs around them to be a real turn on. One significant drawback of this position is that some men find it results in hurried orgasms. You may find it beneficial to use this position at the end of your lovemaking..

Hot Spots

-on the kitchen counter
-bent over the table
-in the shower
-on the sofa
-on the steps
-against the wall
-hood of the car
-or anywhere you can possibly think of and get away with it!

For more great sex ideas to help keep sex from getting routine and boring, check out 500 Lovemaking Tips

Written by Doctor Andy – In an ongoing informational about the human sexual condition. These articles are written especially for the Kristen Archives and their readers and may be reproduced in other forums as long as the information is not edited and the author information and email address remains in tact.

A Truth: Women are from Venus, Men are from Mars.

You’ve probably heard this statement connected to a prominent self-help author and in discussions about gender relationships.

The reason you have heard this statement is that it is absolutely true and describes a human condition that has been glossed over since the beginning of time.

Ninety-nine percent of women have no idea what goes through a man’s mind on a regular basis. Women think they know, but if they could crawl inside the average male’s mind and read their thoughts un-hindered, they’d be shocked beyond belief.

You’ve heard woman say, “He’s such a pig.” Usually related by an ex-girlfriend or wife about their relationship with an ex-boyfriend for ex-husband. What has happened here is that she’s actually gotten a glimpse of the “private” man, the man that we all are, but that most of us can conceal, or subdue.

A Truth: Every heterosexual male looks at a woman as a sex object.

This truth applies to men from the priesthood all the way down the social ladder to rapists and thieves. There is not one heterosexual male on the face of the earth, that when they see a woman that appeals to their senses, doesn’t imagine that woman as a sex partner.

When a male is gazing dreamily at a female while sitting on a plane, train, or at a stoplight, he isn’t just looking into space. What he’s doing is fantasizing about pumping his seed into her while she’s screaming for him to “do it harder!”

Of course this condition is part of nature. The urge to reproduce is a basic part of our human condition and the normal male is programmed by nature to “need” to reproduce. So when he sees a likely female his mind automatically turns to thoughts of reproduction.

Women have been programmed by nature to be the nurturer of life, to have maternal instincts if you will. They enjoy sex, but they aren’t programmed with the “need” to reproduce like men are. When a woman gazes dreamily at a man, she isn’t usually thinking about him humping away at her, she’s gauging his physical appearance, as to it’s relation to what a child might look like if he were the father.

She might be more interested in the man’s stability and ability to provide than how long his penis is or how long he can last in bed.

Don’t misunderstand me; any healthy young woman is concerned about the ability of a lover to please her, it’s just that although that is a priority, it isn’t the only one. Where, for young man, the sex act is the driving force.

A Truth: Even ugly women can be goddesses.

I don’t mean to offend anyone by using the description “ugly” as it’s related to females, but lets be honest, in our society as in all past societies, looks are important in social settings. Forms of beauty have changed through the ages, but one thing has remained constant; there have always been the beautiful and the ugly.

But what hasn’t always been apparent is that physical appearance isn’t really the most important thing to excite a man’s libido. A plain woman can be considered sexier than the most physically beautiful woman just by having the right attitude toward sex.

Yes, that’s entirely true. How a woman responds to a man’s sex drive is much more important than mere physical attractiveness. A woman who understands “penis psychology” is sought after as a rare prize, as something special.

The problem is that ninety-nine percent of woman don’t understand men and their “needs” and without that understanding their relationship will be superficial and based upon other factors such as physical appearance, wealth, or popularity.

A Truth: Penis worship will get the willing woman anything she wants.

This is the most important thing for any woman to understand. Men think through their penis. Yes I know that sounds like an old cliché, and that any self-respecting person would just dismiss that statement. But if you really do dismiss this one fact, then you’ve blown it completely.

As I stated at the beginning of this article, men from priests to rapists envision women, in their mind’s eye, as sexual objects. There is nothing truer than this one fact.

The fact that a priest fantasizes about a nubile young female as a sex partner doesn’t make him evil, it is the natural predisposition of the human male to look at women as sex partners. But in most cases the priest can over ride his instincts and not act out on his procreative urges.

The point I make here is that if women will accept this one truth, that ALL men see women as sex objects, and that this is a natural state of affairs, then they can control men, and their own lives as well.

In our society today, women have an inferior position to men, both in the workplace and in society. If anyone ever really gave it serious thought they would come to the conclusion that male dominance is the reason for this situation. Since the beginning of time the man has been in control, the aggressor, the dominant partner.

In today’s society, muscle and aggression is less gender specific than they have ever been before. In the bedroom a woman can control her man completely just by understanding what drives him, and how his mind works.

I’m not trying to imply that the bedroom is the woman’s domain and that it is the only way to get ahead in life. All I’m saying is that if the young woman of today understands, truly understands, what makes men tick, she will have a great advantage in her relationships with men in bed and in the workplace.

The following are some basic truths to know about heterosexual males that should be understood:

1. As a rule, young males begin to think about sex at around nine and first begin to masturbate to ejaculation at around ten to eleven years old.
2. Just about every young male who masturbates is doing it EVERY DAY and is fantasizing ALL THE TIME about any and all females who happen to be within his environment. This would include females as diverse as Sunday School teachers, the next-door neighbor’s daughters and wife, even his mother and own sisters.
3. Even though most men don’t act out on their fantasies, young males of masturbating age will fantasize about forcing other children, as well as adult females. Whole scenarios will be built up; how to place their “victim” in a position where they can take advance of their sexuality without their knowing who is doing it, and in a way that can’t be stopped, or punished later.
4. Most boys of masturbation age would faint from fright if a female actually approached them for their sexual favors.
5. As they grow up, most men are willing to do anything for an accommodating woman who showed they were attracted sexually to them.

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As with anything, even masturbation becomes a “habit” over time. Although the physical pleasure is still intense, the mind becomes used to the pleasure and the act itself becomes routine.

It is those formative years before routine sets in, that shape a man’s penis psychology. What kind of fantasies gave the most satisfaction. What kinds of external stimuli was experienced during his formative years and what kinds of sexual contact he might have had, that will shape his “needs” in the future.

Many children will experience some kind of sexual contact before becoming fully sexually aware. This is all part of the growing-up process, most children are curious and they’ll be curious about things sexual as well.

My most vivid memory of pre-masturbatory sexual contact was when a couple of buddies of mine in the fourth grade, talked a pretty little blonde girl (I’ve forgotten her name) into letting them finger her behind the curtains of the class room at school.

It amazed me at the time that any girl would agree to something like that, and to do it in a classroom where other people were, was even more amazing to me.

That was the first time I saw a girls vagina and the memory was burned into my memory and became the “ideal” for all future vaginas. That one episode “colored” my sexuality for the rest of my life. It showed me my first female sexual organ and at the same time it made me realize that females would let you do things to them if you asked the right one the right question.

As I grew up I had other sexual encounters with both boys and girls. At that age I suppose curiosity is a powerful thing, and the pleasure of sexual contact without the realization of the consequences is both an exhilarating and dangerous time in all children’s lives.

These episodes have nothing to do with parental upbringing either. My experiences took place because of the children I knew from school. My parents tried very hard to instill in me the right values, but when you are a child and other children do and show you things that are exciting, you’re not thinking about what is morally right and wrong, because as a child you don’t have the understanding of guilt that you will later as an adult.

Looking back I realize that I was more sexually active than many children, and the reason for this was the school friends that I had. I realized that I was more sexual than other boys when the boy next door and I began to “feel” each other up out in his back yard after school.

They had a big old refrigerator box with a couple of holes in it that was sort of a playhouse/fort. I don’t remember how it started or who made the first move, but I do remember that we ended up out there in his backyard together.

One of us would stick his head out of the hole in the top of the big box and keep an eye open for anyone approaching, while the other would unbuckle and unzip him and fondle his penis and balls.

Keep in mind that this was before either of us had begun to masturbate, we didn’t know the full extend of the sex act, all we knew was that it felt good to have someone else touch us and make us hard.

The realization came to me that he and I were different when one day we invited to other buddies from school into that backyard and somehow talked them into baring their penises. We had all decided that we’d stand in a circle and touch “dick heads”, you know, one for all and all for one.

We’ll you can imagine my surprise when my buddy and I whipped ours out and then looked at our new friends. Both my buddy and I had fully hard erections and our two friends were holding small, limp little penises out on display.

At that moment I realized that they weren’t turned on at all. That they were just doing this because we’d asked them to and they couldn’t see any reason not to do it. That experience taught me an important lesson; don’t assume that everyone thinks the same way as you. They have been “colored” by their experiences just like you have by yours.

Eventually my buddy and I stopped our sexual contact. Not that either of us had a girlfriend, but we just lost interest in each other and then he moved away and the whole incident became one more experience from the past.

The whole point of the story is to illustrate that what is normal to one person isn’t necessarily to another, but that all sexual contact shapes ones outlook for the future.

I would wager that you have a few sexual contact stories from your childhood, even if it is nothing more than walking in on your mom and dad making love or opening the door to your brother’s room and catching him masturbating on his bed. All of these things will “color” your future sexual outlook as well as your fantasies and turn-ons.

A Truth: To a male, his penis is his most prized position.

No matter what a man says, his penis defines him. If it’s short and crooked he’ll be hung up about it. If he can’t last more than a few seconds or if he has a hard time staying erect, he’ll be very concerned about it to the exclusion of all else.

In the U.S. more that 7 billion dollars a year is spent on MALE sexual problems of one sort or another, whether it be mental or physical.

That’s a lot of greenbacks, just concentrated on one part of the male body. But the penis is such a defining organ, one that hangs out in the open and cannot tell a lie.

A woman can if necessary, lie on her back and scream in passion and fool a man into thinking she is enjoying herself, but a man has to “prove” his excitement by sporting a stiff penis. And since the male libido is a sensitive and delicate thing, it can become a problem even for the fully sexual male. The more stressful situations that he places himself in, the more chance that he will experience performance problems.

My research shows that in monogamous relationships where a couple has had no other sex partners, the incident of erectile failure is less than 1%, while for those males who have had 10 or more sexual encounters erectile failure has occurred at least once, or 100% of subjects admitted to some sort of performance problem under certain circumstances.

A woman who knows how important her male partner’s penis is to him will be way ahead of the game. And a woman who will take the time to worship his penis, will be the sexiest woman in the world to him.

A Truth: Penis Worship makes every woman a goddess.

If women would keep one sexual thought in their minds when approaching her lover in bed, she will always have the upper hand and will be his own personal goddess.

As I mentioned at the beginning of this article, any woman, even a “plain-jane” can be a goddess in her man’s eyes, all it takes is understanding “penis psychology” and using that knowledge on her lover.

A man knows when his lover thinks he’s sexy. He can tell by the attention she gives his penis. Whether you’re trying to rekindle your sex life with a long time lover or just starting out in a relationship, I guarantee you grand success if you treat his penis like a god.

It’s not that hard to treat a man’s penis like a god. When fully erect it resembles the fertility phallus, which has been a sign of godliness since the dawn of time. It is smooth and hard all at once and if properly maintained, it feels wonderful wrapped within the fingers of your hand, or between your lips, or sunk deeply between the folds of your vagina.

The penis is a mighty sign of your man’s lust and that lust is yours for the taking over and over again if you’re willing to praise the symbol of that lust in word and deed.

The simplest way to show you care is to seek out his penis when he’s otherwise occupied. Even though men think about sex all the time, sometimes those thoughts are submerged beneath day-to-day tasks. But the sexiest thing he’ll ever experience is the moment when his lover walks up to him while he’s preoccupied and she slips her hands in his pocket and massages his balls.

Don’t you think he will remember the event for the rest of his life, when, while he’s talking to someone from work on the phone you kneel down in front of him and loosen his belt and open his fly and give him a silent blowjob while he has to continue his conversation. Take my word as a male, that performing an act like that becomes a defining moment in his life, something he’ll never forget.

You didn’t do anything you wouldn’t have done later that night in bed, but it was the timing of the event, and the playfulness, the “penis worship” that he will never forget.

There is no reason to ever have to do anything outside the home that might get either of you in trouble, but if you want to make one of those defining moments; a little playfulness in the dark at a movie or concert will take his attention immediately.

Even something as simple as laying in bed and caressing his penis, and talking to it as if it had a life of its own. Let him see you adoring his penis and you have won him over.

Continue penis worship from time to time and you’ll have a satisfied lover, one who is less likely to have roving eyes. As an example, my wife always gives me great sex and a blowjob the night before I go out of town to attend an event related to my work.

We’ve never actually talked about it, but I have always known why she does that, and I look forward to it. I know that she is putting her “mark” on me, sending me off “satisfied” so if some other woman eyes me while I’m on the road, I’ll be less likely to be tempted.

It’s wonderful to know that she values me enough to go out of her way to leave me sated prior to my trips. It’s something that keeps the cockles of my heart warm while I’m out there negotiating the cold cruel world.

Please send your comments or questions to Dr. Andy, with the title “Penis Psychology” in the subject line, to the archive at: webber78@hotmail.com.

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The only real advice I can give you is that you should take the time to really get to know your man’s sexual organ. It will be time well spent. And if you will take enough time at least once a week from now until hell freezes over to adore his penis, to actually worship it during sex play, then you will truly be his goddess and he will worship you in return.

One last note: Penis worship still works even after menopause, even if sexual intercourse becomes impossible due to physical related female problems which so often happen after the change in life.

Just because you can’t have intercourse any longer doesn’t mean that he’s stopped wanting it. A little “Penis Worship” can go a long way toward satisfying your man’s sex drive under conditions like this. If he’s still with you it means he wants to be. If you want him to stay faithful, then worship his penis once a week.

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Prostate orgasm is a term used for massaging the prostate gland. and so is milking. Prostate massage is normally used therapeutically to treat and prevent a variety of prostate disorders such as prostatitis and BPH (Benign Prostatic Hypertrophy). Many health care providers recommend prostate orgasm as a way of soothing and relieving prostate distress. However, it has grown very popular for sexual pleasure to intensify the orgasm in masturbation or with a partner.

Since the most direct way for you to massage your man’s Sacred Spot is through his anus, it takes time to adjust to being penetrated in this way. And It’s not for every man. There are many benefits and the pleasure can be very intense for most men.

Before beginning the prostate massage your partner may want to urinate and/or have a bowel movement and shower to freshen up. Make sure your nails are cut and smooth so there are no rough edges or use a latex glove or a finger glove for safer anal play. Also have plenty of lubricant available.

It’s important for you partner to be relaxed so starting out with a nice sensual massage is great and when you are both ready, you can begin massaging your partner’s prostate externally. It’s easier to have him laying on his back and then using your index and middle fingertips, you can touch, rub, stroke, or press his perineum (the area of skin from underneath his testicles to his anus), trying various sensations and pressures. Use your other hand to stroke other parts of his body for additional arousal. This is the beginning of the massage, so talk to your partner about what feels good to him.

You don’t want to enter to quickly with your finger so continue to massage the exterior of the anus until it becomes soft and pliable, and not resistant to your touch. You can do this with circular motions in a slow and steady fashion.

Insert your finger(s) about an inch or so, and when your partner is comfortable, move your finger(s) in an upward motion along the wall of the rectal lining that faces the front of his body. Try to locate a round bulb of tissue — this is the prostate. Once you locate this area, move your finger(s) in a “come here” motion. Remember the prostate gland is a very delicate organ and should be treated with care at all times.

At the same time you are massaging his prostate take his penis in your hand or mouth  For some men they may orgasm through prostate stimulation alone, but most need additional stimulation.

If he does indeed find pleasure in this experience hopefully you’ll watch him escalate to one of the most intense orgasms he’s ever had. If not, at least you will be learning together, building trust between you and trying something new.

Your body is a sacred temple and a divine instrument of pleasures fit for the gods. And before you can use it to make wonderful music with a partner you must learn how to play it…lol

Part of becoming comfortable and intimatly acquainted with your own bodyis learning how to pleasure it. The more you understand about what you like, the better you’ll be able to enjoy sexual contact with a partner. Betty Dodson once said, ” Seeking sexual satisfaction is a basic desire and masturbation is our first natural sexual activity. It’s the way we discover our eroticism, the way we learn to love ourselves and to build self-esteem”.  It’s certainly one of the easiest, fastest and most reliable ways to unleash your Inner Sex Goddess.

Here are some more reasons to spend precious time and energy on your self indulgent pleasures.

Benefit #1

Self -Pleasuring is the single most important thing you can do to become a truly great lover. By focusing on your own fulfillment, you gain access to the complete you.

Benefit #2

Self-pleasuring makes you feel sexy. One of the fastest, surest, and most enjoyable ways to summon up the sense of power and senuality is to arouse your body and mind with some self -pleasuring.

Benefit #3

Self-pleasuring puts you in touch with your body. We ignore our bodies most of the time. We’re so busy organizing and divising our lives. We tend to view  the input and sensations of our bodies as less important, less reliable and less real than those of our mind. This seperation of mind and body is self-destructive.

Benefit #4

Self-pleasuring strengthens and increases the flexability of your love muscle. If you don’t already know puboccygeus (PC) is your primary love muscle. It is used to dtop the flow of urine and if it’s well developed you can use it to massage and squeeze a man’s penis to ecstasy. The PC muscle is the muscle in which you experience most of the contractions of orgasm. If you keep it toned it can help you have bigger, better and more frequent orgasms.

Benefit #5

Self-pleasuring teaches you how to have orgasms. Many women have never had an orgasm with or without a partner. Many are not sure if they have or not. Many women fake it just to keep the peace or to avoid hurting his feelings. Most women need additional stimulation to experience their full sexual potential and enjoyment, but all the while they think they’re supposed to be climaxing all over the place just from their lover’s penis.

Benefit #6

Self-pleasuring provides relief from mentral cramps. A benefit to having a toned and regularly orgasmic vaginal muscle is that they are stronger, more elastic and better able to handle the inner movement associated with your menstral period.

Benefit #7

Self-pleasure reduces stress and tention. The intense muscular and emotional release of self-induced orgasms provides quite a tonic for anxiety, tense muscles job stress or any other frustration.

Benefit #8

Sel-pleasuring helps you sleep. It has been scientifically proven that giving yourself a lovely orgasm relaxed your muscles and tunes your brain waves to alpha or even theta (Deep sleep). It’s like a sleeping pill that has no side effects.

Benefit #9

For older women, self pleasuring inceases vaginal lubrication and lessons the discomfort of dryness. This is not only true when you are pleasuring yourself, but all the time. Bt keeping your vaginal glands active, before, during and after menopause years, you are encouraging then to produce more lubrication regularly.

Benefit #10

Self-pleasuring is the key to overcoming sexual guilt and self repression. The more time you spend getting to know your body, feeling comfortable with it and all the wonderful things it can do for you and seeing how beautiful it is at rest and during all stages of excitement the more you come to understand that sexual pleasure is a natural and especially wonderful benefit of living in a body.

So toss out those old beliefs about self-pleasuring being dirty, sinful or that you should feel ashamed of yourself. They don’t serve you. What will serve you is the freedom to discover new techniques in vulva massage, self-pleasuring and anal massage.

Yes, sex is safe if you’re having a normal pregnancy. Sex is considered safe during all stages of the pregnancy. What’s considered a “normal pregnancy”? It’s a pregnancy that is considered a low-risk for complications such as miscarriage or pre-term labor.

Everything that you were doing before you were pregnant is probably still okay. Do use some caution if your sexual activity is more aggressive. But, just because sex is safe during pregnancy doesn’t always mean you’ll want to have it! A lot of expectant mothers find that their desire for sex fluctuates during certain stages in the pregnancy. You might find sex becomes uncomfortable as your bodies get bigger. This is completely normal.

During the first trimester sex might not have the same appeal because of symptoms such as fatigue, nausea, breast tenderness, and the increased need to urinate. Fatigue and nausea usually end by the second trimester, and some of you might find that your desire for sex then increases. Although you could find that freedom from worries about contraception, combined with a renewed sense of closeness with your partner, makes sex more fulfilling. Your desire could decline again during the third trimester as the uterus grows even larger and the reality of what’s about to happen sets in. It really varies from woman to woman.

Your partner’s desire for sex might increase or decrease as well. Some men feel even closer to their pregnant partner and enjoy the changes in their bodies. Others may experience decreased desire because of anxiety about the burdens of parenthood, or because of concerns about the health of both the mother and their unborn child.

When you get a little farther along in your pregnancy you will find some sexual positions not as comfortable. Here are a few I recommend you do try.

Spoon: The spoon position can be very intimate. In this case you should lie on your side curled in a C, with your partner facing your back and curled around you. He then enters your vagina from behind while both of you are lying on your sides. This position also allows you or your partner to stimulate your clitoris at the same time of penetration.

Side by side: Another good choice for late pregnancy, this position will control thrust and keep weight off your belly. You and your husband lie side by side, facing each other. He slips his leg over yours (your leg can be either straight and to the side or bent at the knee) and enters you from an angle. In a variation of this, you lie on your back and he on his side. Put your leg that’s closest to him over his legs. He can enter you from the back and side, and still have his face next to yours.

Woman on top: This can be a satisfying position during late pregnancy, allowing you to control pacing and be more comfortable. Make sure, however, that he doesn’t enter you too deeply. He will always try!

Edge of the bed: Try lying down face-up on the edge of the bed, with your legs spread and the soles of your feet on the floor. Your partner can stand or bend over you. This position, however, does allow him to thrust more deeply, so you’ll have to tell him how gentle and slow you want him to be.

Don’t put the sex toys away. Keep them thoroughly cleaned and well lubricated as usual. They can add a lot of pleasure for you as you masturbate and be very erotic for your man to watch.  Use them during your foreplay or go at it alone for variety. Just be sure to top adjust the angle and depth to avoid bruising the cervix if using one that penetrates rather than just massages.

Most importantly – keep the lines of communication “open”. This is a wonderful thing happening to you both – talk about your needs and work together.

For more great sex ideas to use now or to keep sex alive after the baby is born, check out 500 Lovemaking Tips

It can be fun and arousing to discover your precise g-spot, or at least try. Especially, if you get your partner involved. Just try not to become fixated on achieving a sexual goal (multiple orgasms, simultaneous orgasm, g-spot orgasms) One thing I can promise is that this is the best way to NOT enjoy any sort of sexual encounter. Remember that sexual exploration is mostly about the journey, not the destination (although the destination is better than most, I’ll agree). Try not to make this another notch in your “sexually self-actualized” belt.

You can usually locate it between one and three inches inside of your vagina, toward the front, on the location of the anterior wall. Place your palm face down on your vulva and slowly insert a finger inside your vagina (use lube if you’re feeling a little dry), crooking it forward in a “come hither” motion. When you’re up to about the second knuckle you should feel a slightly bumpy or ridged area on the upper wall of your vagina. You can try stimulating this area with your fingers or a sex toy. You may find it easier to use a sex toy that has a curved shape, such as a vibrator or dildo. Some find it right away, for others it may take several tries. Don’t feel pressured because there is nothing wrong if you don’t feel immediate stimulation. This is normal.

The g-spot has a spongy area surrounding it which becomes engorged with blood when you get aroused sexually, so you may find it is easier to locate when you are turned on. The best positions for this are either lying on your back, squatting, or laying on your tummy.

A few of you might find it harder to stimulate this area with your hands. If this is the case, you can try using a dildo for assistance, and as previously mentioned, a curved dildos work best for this. Squeeze a small amount of lube onto your sex toy and insert it into the vagina with the tip pointing upward toward the top inner wall. Push it slowly inward a few inches until the tip of the dildo is touching and pressing on the front wall of your vagina.

You can try your own experiments using different motions and pressure. You may find that you like the feeling of the pressure in your vagina more, or the tingling caused by the vibration. You will soon discover which feels best to you. You may start with a back and forth or circular motion, but move toward more vigorous movements if sensations increase. You might begin feeling an increased level of intensity, tingling, maybe arousal and possibly even an intense urge to urinate. Begin playing with your clitoris in your favorite motion, and continue stroking your g-spot area until you explode in ecstasy

If you’re playing around and it’s not doing anything for you, try something else, and know that there is nothing wrong with you, and what turns us all on is incredibly individual and unique.