Ladies take it from me, this is one area of your sexual life hat you don’t want to neglect. You may have been told that masturbation is “dirty’ or “immoral” or that only men do it. I shared with you in the previous post the reasons to include self-pleasuring in your sexual vocabulary. After all, men have been enjoying this sexy secret for years. it’s our turn to get in on the fun.
Here are some tips I have learned over the years and would like to share with you.
Schedule pleasure time.
- Making taking time for yourself a priority.
- Turn off all electronic devices, yes, you cell phone too.
- Discover books, pictures, music textures, and/or smells that are especially sensuous, enjoyable and erotic and be willing to add them to your environment.
Use all five of your senses,
- Sight (soft lighting, pictures, movies)
- Hearing (music, etc)
- Smell ( scented candles, flowers, essential oil)
- Taste ( Food, your own body, etc.)
- Touch (self-massage, feathers, textures, etc.)
The more senses you use, the more intense your experience will be and the more pleasure you will have.
- Include whole body touching. Work out from the genitals, spreading the sexual energy throughout the whole body.
- Incorporate pelvic breathing. It may be awkward at first, but you will see how it affects your sexual response, the strength of your orgasms.
- Contract and release your P.C. (Kegal) muscles. Also incorporate pelvic thrusting to add to the intensity.
Lubricant the Great Essential
- Don’t forget lubricant makes everything feel better against you or inside you. so any dildo, or vibrator that you use should be coated with lubricant just before you begin to use it. You will want to moisten your hands with lubricant before self-pleasuring too.
If you are just beginning this exploration use your hands first. A lot of women learn to orgasm by stimulating the clitoris manually. Try exploring your body with your hands, such as your breasts, inside your thighs, the vaginal lips (outside and in), even massage your buttocks, and most importantly your clitoris, paying close attention to what areas feel good. Try to imagine if it were someone else doing it and you wanted to tell them exactly where and what to touch, squeeze, massage, pinch, etc.
Sex Toys
- Self-pleasuring with dildos
A dildo is a shaft shaped like a penis, made of soft or hard plastic, jelly, or lifelike “future flesh”. Dildo are not motorized and can be used quietly anywhere.
- Your ticket to orgasm: The vibrator
In your exploration of self – pleasure, you’re selling your self short if you don’t consider using a vibrator, at least occasionally. These buzzy little objects, which are designed to vibrate gently against your clitoris or within your vagina, can help you achieve orgasm in a variety of ways. Some evn reach your G-spot! I’m telling you if you’ve never had an orgasm before the vibrator is your ticket to this experience of ecstasy.
I do recommend trying a washcloth opened up and draped of your clitoris while using a vibrator. For some of you using the vibrator directly on your clitoris might be too much. You can fold over the washcloth as many times as you need to remove it all together.
For the ultimate pleasure put the dildo inside your vagina and us the vibrator on your clitoris at the same time. Squeezing your kegals around the dildo time will not only enhance your pleasure, but will strengthen them as well. Double duty. =)
Don’t be afraid to rock, move, grunt, moan or even cry while you explore the pleasures within yourself. Your total release can be so freeing and heal you within, so let yourself experience those reactions you might have when you lose control.
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