Sex Goddess Mentor

Giving each other and every part of the body loving, sensual attention creates an ecstatic reverberation in each cell of the body. You will radiate from your core and be open to connect with your partner in ways that are deep, electric and unforgettable. Such a profound sensual experiences deserves to be done with care and focus.

Massage is an especially good thing for men to focus on. Women often need the kind of attention it gives them to feel comfortable with proceeding on to more intimate activities. The nurturing, caring-for aspect of romance is extremely important between you and your partner. You will have more interesting and intense erotic experiences if you’re involved on all levels with each other. Touch and scent are the best ways of really opening some of those deeper levels.

Step One: Make an Erotic Massage Date

I invite you to make a date with your lover to share this massage with you, and together dedicate generous time for it. Plan for at least three hours to fully savor the experience.

Step Two: Set up your Sexy Space

Create your space ahead of time to get the most out of your time together. Attend to each of the following details. You can create the space together, or one of you can set up the room as a delightful gift for you both.

Heat the room to a cozy warm temperature.

Turn off the phones and minimize other distractions.
Choose Your Music. Music is optional, although highly recommended.
Set mood lighting. Massage by candlelight is the most beautiful, but take safety precautions.
Put out your massage oil or lotion.

Step Three: Go Deep Into Your Role

What to do if you are giving:

Breathe deeply along with your partner. Give total focus to your partner, and stay present. Tap into your sensitivity.

Pay attention to your lover’s responses. Tune in and notice what your lover likes or doesn’t like. If you get insecure, say positive affirmations to yourself. Like “I’m a great masseuse,” or “My consciousness is in my hands, and I know just what to do with them.”

Be creative and make giving fun for yourself. Enjoy looking at and touching your lover’s body. Ask your lover for feedback as you go. And say, “thank you when you get it.

Move slowly. Except when your lover asks for something faster and limit chitchat.

What to do if you are receiving:

Totally receive 100%. Don’t try and give anything back while you receive. Simply lie back, and enjoy it. Breathe. The more you breathe the more fully you will feel.

Give feedback. It’s your body and your massage, so say what you want, or don’t want. Harder or softer, faster or slower. You can give feedback with your voice, with hand gestures and body language. Let yourself go. Surrender to whatever you are feeling.

Step Four: Savor the Afterglow

After the massage, you may want to give your partner time with herself /himself or you may want to snuggle together for a while. Notice how transformed you feel from when you started? You’ll likely say “I needed that.” Feel the new energy you have created in your immediate environment. Let it move through you and you through it. Enjoy your intimate connection and the good feelings it has generated in your bodies. That connection is a little bit of heaven. Say “thank you” and express what you are feeling for one another. Let the afterglow of this massage last for hours or even days.

If you have not done so already I invite you to grab your Free Sensual Massage Guide for more details about how to give a sensual massage.

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