Sex Goddess Mentor

Do you want to know how to be more sexy and be more appealing? I asked dozens of my male clients what they thought made a woman sexy. I must say it was a little surprising and refreshing to hear. Almost all of them said it was a woman’s attitude and how she carried herself that made her sexy. I really expected to hear short skirts, heels and bulging necklines..LOL  How stereotype is that.

I think many of us women are not sure what makes us feel sexy. Feeling sexy can be elusive. You might wake up feeling sexy and by the afternoon you are feeling as unsexy as you’ve ever felt. It’s important to explore what makes you feel sexy and how you can feel that way more often. Part of discovering your inner sex goddess is to learn how to tap into your sexuality all the time, whether or not you plan to have sexual communion with a partner.

Feeling sexy isn’t the same thing as wanting to have sex right away, but they are linked in some way. Feeling sexy is not a certain formula, but rather a complex concoction of charisma, desire, charm, confidence, composure, conversation, cleverness, and natural attractiveness. Sexiness is a person’s ability to continually inspire the sexual curiosity of their partner, through their appearance and attitude.

How is your desire? Our sexual moods certainly change, sometimes from one moment to the next, and it’s easy to slip into, or out of sex goddess mode. Sometimes you feel geared up for a truly sacred sexual encounter, sometimes you feel like some pleasurable fun and sometimes you don’t feel like it at all! That’s all natural and normal. Feeling sexy is an attitude and a lifestyle and most of use don’t feel that way all the time. Immersing yourself in the ways of the sex goddess can up your desire as well as your courage and willingness to initiate sex when you want it. The two keys to feeling sexy are to have more sex and to live in mindful sensuality.                                              

It helps to increase your mindfulness and tune into the sensual world around you when learning what makes you feel sexy.  Be present in the moment and notice the aroma, and texture of things. When you meet people notice things about them look them in the eye when you speak to them. Being mindful of the sensual world is a big part of enjoying sexual contact as well as enjoying life itself. Here are some more ideas to feeling sexy and living a sensual life.

• Dress in a way that feels good. Wear soft pleasing fabrics, clothes that make you feel beautiful and colors you love.
• Pamper yourself; primp, touch your body, your face and hair.
• Keep your skin soft with lotions.
• Keep fresh flowers in the house
• Sleep on super soft sheets
• Let your home and body be alters of sensuality and open yourself to all the beauty the world has to offer you.

Use it or lose it. It’s a simple fact that the more you have sex (or pleasure yourself), the more you feel in the mood for sex. If you rarely have sex, your body gets out of the habit of expecting and anticipating it. You may have more difficulty having orgasms, and the idea of initiating sex may never even occur to you. Just as you exercise to keep your muscles in shape, so you can practice sexual physical fitness to keep your desire muscles primed for action.

Remember being sexy doesn’t necassarly mean your out to have sex with a partner, but the energies are related. Strive for mindfulness in you daily life, put yourself first more often and soon sexiness will be oozing from.