1. Avoid Complacency
Complacency in a relationship is dangerous and ultimately leads to the loss of passion and desire.  Before you know it, your sex life is a boring routine. It’s very easy, especially for those of you in long-term relationships to settle into the comfort zone that security and commitment provides.  Having great sex requires continuous, mindful effort from both you and your partner. Both must stay committed in your efforts to keep your sex life fresh and exciting.  Your sexual relationship must be a  #1 priority. Most couples find the focus on the relationship ends up on the back burner due to hectic paced lifestyles.  Sex often becomes something squeezed in whenever there is available time. Making time for quality sex is essential. The more often you partake in sex the deeper your desire will grow. The relationship must be nurtured to keep passion and excitement alive.

2. Promote Spontaneity, Adventure and Variety
It is essential to add spice to your sex life!  Dare to be adventurous and spontaneous. This will keep your relationship alive, interesting and exciting. Entice your lover with surprises and games.  Engage in sexual activities, technique and positions that are unique for you as a couple.

3. Deepen Intimacy
Sex without intimacy eventually becomes shallow and unfulfilling. Intimacy must be nurtured for a relationship to survive.  The deeper your intimacy is in your relationship the more explosive and satisfying the sex will be. Intimacy combined with explosive mind-blowing sex will cement your relationship with your lover in a very powerful way.

4. Communication
The most important element for relationships and great sex is good communication. When sexual needs and desires aren’t communicated, satisfaction diminishes.   Be open, direct and honest about what you need touched, when and how. Demonstrate if needed what level of pressure and speed you prefer. Let your partner know what words you need to hear and when and how to say them. Discuss the scenarios, techniques and positions that work best for your satisfaction. Talk about your sexual fantasies. Share with them what works and what doesn’t work for your arousal and pleasure.

Let’s face it, keeping your relationship strong is a huge challenge. If you find you don’t have the time to be creative and spend hours every week finding new ways to surprise and be romantic. Then I recommend some of theses books that help to rekindle relationships while others add even more fun, passion and joy to them. Whether you’re dating, are newlyweds or have been married for years, these books will help bring you closer together and keep it that way.