The enlightened woman aspires to become the best she can be in fellatio techniques. She is keenly aware that there is incredible power in this skill.    The satisfaction you give him also reaps huge benefits in the relationship as well. Oral sex is extremely important to men because their identity is strongly associated with the  penis. A man who is deprived of receiving oral sex, especially one who enjoys and desires it, will likely feel rejected, resentful and dissatisfied. It is not uncommon for men who don’t receive oral at home to find it in other places and his partner may never be aware of it.

Usually women say they don’t enjoy oral sex for one of four reasons:

1.They don’t like the idea of a penis being shoved into their mouth.
2.They feel as if they are gagging
3.They don’t like the taste
4.They don’t want to swallow semen as the man ejaculates.

These issues are perfectly understandable. The good news is there is a way to address each and every one of them. There are approaches that can make oral sex manageable, gag-free and even tasty!

Developing and enjoying fellatio techniques gives you power as a lover, and a life partner. This sexual act gives him ultimate sexual pleasure, increased intimacy, and enhance all aspects of the relationship.

Providing fellatio to your man is one of the finest ways for you to express your love for him and prevent wandering eyes. He will find you overwhelmingly alluring and desirable.

The How To Guide

Get comfortable and you might want to tie back long hair. Invite your lover to lie on his back and lift himself up on a pillow to watch you slip between his legs and satisfy him.

You may even want to drop to your knees on the floor for your man while he stands above you with his penis hanging in your face. Either way he will be turned on.

Add edible lubrication. Like most other sexual contact, slippery is better. Saliva works, but you can’t always get things or keep things as moist as you would like. So keep some handy and for extra oral pleasure, use a flavored lubricant.

Tantalize and tease. Touch him lightly and softly kiss the tip of the penis. Remember the most sensitive areas are on the coronal edge, along the edges of the head and frenulum.  This is the point where the shaft meets the head on the underside of the penis.   Pay lots of attention to these areas with the tip of your tongue. Lick every inch of it. Then spread your tongue out wide like your going to lick a lollipop and lick up and down the shaft. If you never take the whole penis in your mouth, this will already be a big treat for many guys.

Stimulate his scrotum. Be gentle while you lick and kiss!  Pull them gently into your mouth and  suck them. Stroke his penis while tending to the testicles. As you kiss and lick your way back up his shaft continue to encircle the base of his scrotum with your free hand. The combination of sensations will intensify the feeling in both areas.

Take him in your mouth. Using one hand, grip the base of his penis with your hand. Open your mouth and take his penis in as far as you feel comfortable. Close your lips around his shaft and experiment with different tongue movements.

It’s all about friction, soft moist friction.  You don’t want your teeth to touch the shaft.  Curve your lips around your teeth to prevent any contact.  Slowly move your head up and then back down again while gradually increasing your speed as his penis moves in and out.  Squeeze the base of the penis with your fingers while sucking however be careful of your throat. This action will cause the head to expand.  You can also swirl your tongue around his penis as you hold it in your mouth providing a sensation most men love.

Use your hands. Your mouth isn’t the only factor in great oral sex. With the hand that’s gripping the base of his penis you can give him some additional sensations by moving your hand up and down in rhythm with the movements of your mouth, giving him the feeling of “full coverage” If your mouth needs a rest continue using your hands and don’t forget the scrotum. Kiss, lick, or tickle it varying the amount of pressure to keep things interesting. Lick his perineum (the area leading from the testicles up the anus) while stroking him or rub the perineum while sucking him.

Wet one of your fingers with your mouth or use lubricant and caress his anus. If he responds positively to this, then slip the finger inside his anus while you suck on his penis.

It is a real turn on for many men to ejaculate into your mouth and swallow it.. Do what feels comfortable to you.  The big key is not to act repulsed by his semen. He can give you a signal when he’s about to ejaculate and then continue using your hands and lick his testicles. Have a towel near by if you need to spit it out or let him ejaculate on your breast.

Don’t “Go all the Way”
While lots of guys love oral sex, they’re not necessarily committed to climaxing that way. They’ll often be happy with the oral stimulation, if it’s followed by penetration. If you can find a pleasurable way of licking, sucking or caressing with your tongue or perhaps using a combination tongue and hands then when you’re tired or he’s ready to ejaculate, slip him out of your mouth and into your vagina.

Reflex Action
The gag reflex is perfectly normal and we all have it.  It varies from person to person.
Your throat may be more likely to constrict and trigger the gag reflex if you are feeling anxious or vulnerable.  Also viewing oral sex as an unpleasant experience you wish you could avoid can trigger this reflex.  The secret is to make sure you are always in control of how much you take into your mouth.  It’s also necessary to take time to breathe.

Be aware of your lover’s body language and sounds as you pleasure them. Read their cues and make adjustments in your speed, pressure and rhythm accordingly. Encourage your lover to let you know what feels good and what they want. Sharpening and fine tuning your oral sex techniques will keep your man satisfied, faithful, devoted and captivated!

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I have received hundreds of sex tips  from both my male clients and women friends, who shared what they felt were important to them. Here are a few that seem to keep getting repeated over and over.

1. Communication at all times in the relationship will enhance the sexual experience. Discuss your feelings, needs, desires, fears, embarrassments and expectations in and out of the bedroom in regard to all aspects of the relationship.

Good communication will increase intimacy and greater intimacy will lead to greater sex. Express your love and appreciation on a regular basis in and outside of the bedroom. Passion stays alive by verbalizing your desires, appreciation and love.

2. Initiate sex more often. It is a real turn on for a lot of men when their woman shows them they are interested in having sex with them. Usually men initiate sex, but they want to feel desired and wanted sexually by their partner.

3. Take a shower with your lover and use your hands to lather them up and explore every inch, nook and cranny of their body. Savor them as if they are a fine wine. This will elicit erotic, sensual, spiritual and physical energy in both of you and will help you learn invaluable information about each other’s bodies.

4. Be willing to explore and experiment with different techniques and positions to keep sex interesting.

5. Look in each other’s eyes. Don’t shut your eyes on the process or you can miss a lot of additional sensations. Keep eye contact beginning with foreplay till the hot ride. You hardly feel such a burst of emotions on your partner’s face in other circumstances.

6. Have regular sex. Try to have sex not only when you are in the mood for sex but also to create that mood before you want sex. You won’t need to force yourself for sex, but make some efforts to improve your sex life. You may ask your partner to give you a massage or do it yourself, or simply touch each other while sitting on the couch. Who knows maybe you will change a usual settled TV watching for a steamy evening.

7. Communicate erotically with your lover during sex. Tell them when it feels good and tell them when you see it is good for them. Use sentences such as this:

“It turns me on when I hear you moan while I suck you.”
“I love how you feel when you get hard in my hand”
“You are a wonderful lover”
“It makes me feel really wet when you do that”
“Baby, I want you”

Some people may like the use of more graphic words, so use wording that you and your partner prefer.

8. Give yourself pleasure in front of your partner. Use this as a way to learn how each of you likes to be touched and pleased.

9. Be fully present and allow yourself to become immersed completely in the experience.

10. Always use a lubricant and a lot of it. When your using condoms use a water-base lube to prevent the breakdown of latex otherwise use massage oil. Lubricants help a great deal when you aren’t lubricating as much and prevents soreness. It can make intercourse much more pleasurable than without it.

11. Please your man with more oral sex.  If I had to give you one piece of advice to make your lovemaking perfect, it would be: learn the art of fellatio. It’s true that all men love it. It feels great and actually takes a lot of trust and comfort to let somebody have their mouth down there. In short, it’s an important part of lovemaking and is often the main event.

Problem is, women often start fellatio by sucking on the penis straightaway when, actually, they should start with some playful teasing and soft touches. This will lead to a much more powerful orgasm as it heightens his anticipation. Make sure you use different techniques and your tongue, as well.

12. Give him a hand job. When beginning a genital massage, start with lighter, irregular strokes ­ like teasing. As you get further and further into it, stick with two or three main strokes that your partner really enjoys. Developing a good rhythm that your partner can get into is the key to bringing your partner to orgasm with a genital massage.

13. Find your man’s erogenous zones. Yes, men love to be touched sensually too. I call these “hidden” zones because many people don’t realize, or forget, that these areas of the body LOVE attention. While many of these zones are obvious, like the lips, groin, and inner thighs, there are also areas that, when stroked, caressed and kissed, can drive your partner wild and even intensify their orgasm. Believe it or not, the ears, neck, arms, chest and scalp are all really sensitive areas that love to be stimulated. Spend some time during foreplay caressing and touching these areas, and watch how it pleases your partner.

14. The best position for his enjoyment the one practically every animal species utilizes, is the rear-entry “doggy-style” position. It is a natural one for humans to enjoy, as well. While you won’t have face-to-face contact, there are many benefits. It’s great for guys because it gives them full control.  This is one of the best positions for hitting her G-spot and allows him to fondle your breasts, stomach, clitoris, back, neck and other sensual spots. The main benefit for your man is that he’ll be able to get incredibly deep penetration (above-average guys need to be careful
as deep thrusts might hit her cervix, which can be quite painful).

15. The anus is often overlooked as an area of erotic arousal because of out-dated societal messages. The truth is that the anus is a verysensual, erotic and arousing area of the body for both genders. Incorporating either anal play or anal sex into your sex life can bring you some out of this world sensual pleasure that you didn’t know existed. By itself it can be a great source of ecstasy or using it with other activities it can increase the satisfaction of particular activities. For example: The woman lies on her stomach and rubs her clitoris while her partner has anal sex with her from behind. This can create a mind-blowing orgasm for a woman.

There are so many helpful tips available, but these should at least get you started and create some new interest in the bedroom.