Variety is such an important part of your sexual relationship. Variety will keep your sex life from becoming boring and predictable. Imagine having the same meal every day. You would grow tire of it very quickly. Variety also helps maintain passion, keep sex exciting and help prevent infidelity.The danger of becoming so comfortable with your partner is that once you’ve discovered their prime hot spots, you stop exploring the erotic potential of other areas. Hot spots on a person can change over time or just even during certain times of the month. Allow for the opportunity to explore different areas regularly.

Begin with some of the obvious such as time, place and techniques. Warning! A certain amount of energy and effort, not to mention humor is necessary if you’re going to break out of a rut. Try to change the time of day when you have sex. If it’s usually night time try the morning or middle of the day. Meet at home during your lunch break and have fun to release the stress of the day.

Ideally foreplay starts long before you hit the bedroom. So, you build anticipation until you can’t wait to make love. The trick is to keep sex in the air. You have to get creative and it may not always be spontaneous like you think it should be.  Besides, there’s nothing wrong with planning sex ahead of time.

Having sex in a new place is very exciting. Get out of the bedroom if you can and use a different room in the house. Go outside, use the car, or stay at a hotel for a night. The locations are endless.

Techniques and positions

It’s important to try new positions. It keeps things interesting and you’ll find some positions feel better than others. Depending on the mood you’re will determine what positions to choose. Some positions increase intimacy while others provide deep penetration, stimulation of the G-spot or letting go of your animalistic passions. Certain positions may be used to prolong an erection or extend your lovemaking session, while others can provide you with a quickie.

•    Play sex games
•    Explore some of your fantasy’s
•    Incorporate sex toys, such as vibrators, dildo’s, feathers, and edible lubricant’s.
•    Incorporate oral sex
•    Anal sex
•    Naughty talk

Try things you’re most comfortable with, but be open minded to exploring new things.

As much as variety in the bedroom is important to having a satisfying sex life with your partner it does takes more than a technique; it requires other ingredients as well. It goes beyond the physical technique of lovemaking. It’s important to know what your needs are and getting those needs met. It’s necessary to attend to the emotional and spiritual needs as well as the physical to create a well balanced fulfilling relationship.

It’s very helpful to have a list of  sex tips close at hand that you can choose from. I highly recommend 500 Lovemaking Tips and Secrets to keep sex fun, more intmate and meaningful.

I have received hundreds of sex tips  from both my male clients and women friends, who shared what they felt were important to them. Here are a few that seem to keep getting repeated over and over.

1. Communication at all times in the relationship will enhance the sexual experience. Discuss your feelings, needs, desires, fears, embarrassments and expectations in and out of the bedroom in regard to all aspects of the relationship.

Good communication will increase intimacy and greater intimacy will lead to greater sex. Express your love and appreciation on a regular basis in and outside of the bedroom. Passion stays alive by verbalizing your desires, appreciation and love.

2. Initiate sex more often. It is a real turn on for a lot of men when their woman shows them they are interested in having sex with them. Usually men initiate sex, but they want to feel desired and wanted sexually by their partner.

3. Take a shower with your lover and use your hands to lather them up and explore every inch, nook and cranny of their body. Savor them as if they are a fine wine. This will elicit erotic, sensual, spiritual and physical energy in both of you and will help you learn invaluable information about each other’s bodies.

4. Be willing to explore and experiment with different techniques and positions to keep sex interesting.

5. Look in each other’s eyes. Don’t shut your eyes on the process or you can miss a lot of additional sensations. Keep eye contact beginning with foreplay till the hot ride. You hardly feel such a burst of emotions on your partner’s face in other circumstances.

6. Have regular sex. Try to have sex not only when you are in the mood for sex but also to create that mood before you want sex. You won’t need to force yourself for sex, but make some efforts to improve your sex life. You may ask your partner to give you a massage or do it yourself, or simply touch each other while sitting on the couch. Who knows maybe you will change a usual settled TV watching for a steamy evening.

7. Communicate erotically with your lover during sex. Tell them when it feels good and tell them when you see it is good for them. Use sentences such as this:

“It turns me on when I hear you moan while I suck you.”
“I love how you feel when you get hard in my hand”
“You are a wonderful lover”
“It makes me feel really wet when you do that”
“Baby, I want you”

Some people may like the use of more graphic words, so use wording that you and your partner prefer.

8. Give yourself pleasure in front of your partner. Use this as a way to learn how each of you likes to be touched and pleased.

9. Be fully present and allow yourself to become immersed completely in the experience.

10. Always use a lubricant and a lot of it. When your using condoms use a water-base lube to prevent the breakdown of latex otherwise use massage oil. Lubricants help a great deal when you aren’t lubricating as much and prevents soreness. It can make intercourse much more pleasurable than without it.

11. Please your man with more oral sex.  If I had to give you one piece of advice to make your lovemaking perfect, it would be: learn the art of fellatio. It’s true that all men love it. It feels great and actually takes a lot of trust and comfort to let somebody have their mouth down there. In short, it’s an important part of lovemaking and is often the main event.

Problem is, women often start fellatio by sucking on the penis straightaway when, actually, they should start with some playful teasing and soft touches. This will lead to a much more powerful orgasm as it heightens his anticipation. Make sure you use different techniques and your tongue, as well.

12. Give him a hand job. When beginning a genital massage, start with lighter, irregular strokes ­ like teasing. As you get further and further into it, stick with two or three main strokes that your partner really enjoys. Developing a good rhythm that your partner can get into is the key to bringing your partner to orgasm with a genital massage.

13. Find your man’s erogenous zones. Yes, men love to be touched sensually too. I call these “hidden” zones because many people don’t realize, or forget, that these areas of the body LOVE attention. While many of these zones are obvious, like the lips, groin, and inner thighs, there are also areas that, when stroked, caressed and kissed, can drive your partner wild and even intensify their orgasm. Believe it or not, the ears, neck, arms, chest and scalp are all really sensitive areas that love to be stimulated. Spend some time during foreplay caressing and touching these areas, and watch how it pleases your partner.

14. The best position for his enjoyment the one practically every animal species utilizes, is the rear-entry “doggy-style” position. It is a natural one for humans to enjoy, as well. While you won’t have face-to-face contact, there are many benefits. It’s great for guys because it gives them full control.  This is one of the best positions for hitting her G-spot and allows him to fondle your breasts, stomach, clitoris, back, neck and other sensual spots. The main benefit for your man is that he’ll be able to get incredibly deep penetration (above-average guys need to be careful
as deep thrusts might hit her cervix, which can be quite painful).

15. The anus is often overlooked as an area of erotic arousal because of out-dated societal messages. The truth is that the anus is a verysensual, erotic and arousing area of the body for both genders. Incorporating either anal play or anal sex into your sex life can bring you some out of this world sensual pleasure that you didn’t know existed. By itself it can be a great source of ecstasy or using it with other activities it can increase the satisfaction of particular activities. For example: The woman lies on her stomach and rubs her clitoris while her partner has anal sex with her from behind. This can create a mind-blowing orgasm for a woman.

There are so many helpful tips available, but these should at least get you started and create some new interest in the bedroom.