I think many of us women are not sure what makes us feel sexy. Feeling sexy can be elusive. You might wake up feeling sexy and by the afternoon you are feeling as unsexy as you’ve ever felt. It’s important to explore what makes you feel sexy and how you can feel that way more often. Part of discovering your inner sex goddess is to learn how to tap into your sexuality all the time, whether or not you plan to have sexual communion with a partner.

Feeling sexy isn’t the same thing as wanting to have sex right away, but they are linked in some way. Feeling sexy is not a certain formula, but rather a complex concoction of charisma, desire, charm, confidence, composure, conversation, cleverness, and natural attractiveness. Sexiness is a person’s ability to continually inspire the sexual curiosity of their partner, through their appearance and attitude.

How is your desire? Our sexual moods certainly change, sometimes from one moment to the next, and it’s easy to slip into, or out of sex goddess mode. Sometimes you feel geared up for a truly sacred sexual encounter, sometimes you feel like some pleasurable fun and sometimes you don’t feel like it at all! That’s all natural and normal. Feeling sexy is an attitude and a lifestyle and most of use don’t feel that way all the time. Immersing yourself in the ways of the sex goddess can up your desire as well as your courage and willingness to initiate sex when you want it. The two keys to feeling sexy are to have more sex and to live in mindful sensuality.                                              

It helps to increase your mindfulness and tune into the sensual world around you when learning what makes you feel sexy.  Be present in the moment and notice the aroma, and texture of things. When you meet people notice things about them look them in the eye when you speak to them. Being mindful of the sensual world is a big part of enjoying sexual contact as well as enjoying life itself. Here are some more ideas to feeling sexy and living a sensual life.

• Dress in a way that feels good. Wear soft pleasing fabrics, clothes that make you feel beautiful and colors you love.
• Pamper yourself; primp, touch your body, your face and hair.
• Keep your skin soft with lotions.
• Keep fresh flowers in the house
• Sleep on super soft sheets
• Let your home and body be alters of sensuality and open yourself to all the beauty the world has to offer you.

Use it or lose it. It’s a simple fact that the more you have sex (or pleasure yourself), the more you feel in the mood for sex. If you rarely have sex, your body gets out of the habit of expecting and anticipating it. You may have more difficulty having orgasms, and the idea of initiating sex may never even occur to you. Just as you exercise to keep your muscles in shape, so you can practice sexual physical fitness to keep your desire muscles primed for action.

Remember being sexy doesn’t necassarly mean your out to have sex with a partner, but the energies are related. Strive for mindfulness in you daily life, put yourself first more often and soon sexiness will be oozing from.

Chemistry isn’t taught but it is very important to have to keep passion and satisfying sex alive. If good sex is important to you and there isn’t any chemistry with your partner you both will be terribly disappointed. This is a real important issue to make note of before making a commitment to a long-term relationship.

The depth and quality of your relationship and the fine-tuning of skills is something that can be improved upon. Here are some things that can get you started.

Communication

Both in and out of the bedrom communication is critical. It could be what makes or breaks the relationship. Communication will also strengthens the relationship with your partner. It will deepen your intimacy and connection with one another creating a more satisfying union.

It’s hard to have a good sexual relationship with out communication. Couples need to be able to express what they desire, their sexual wants and preference on a regular basis. If couples can’t express in this way, some men will seek it else where

Keep it Interesting

It is important to regularly do things different. Change up the techniques, positions, place and time so things don’t get stale. You want keep things evolving and interesting. Introduce play toys to your repertoire. Learn some breathing techniques that can help you to relax

Try out some new positions by using sex furniture. This furniture comes in different shapes and sizes to meet your positioning needs. Unusual Tantra techniques may surprise your partner. Being awkened in the middle of the night with some oral delights can be mind blowing..

Build Anticipation

This is a time to go slow and build the desire, passion and arousal. Make each other feel special. Drive your man crazy with giving and withholding in a playful way. Hold out on having your orgasms as long as possible. Spend a lot of time teasing an seducing because in the end you’ll both benefit from more explosive sex.

Be Adventurous

Let yourself be bold, daring and adventurous. A lot of men wish their woman would be willing to explore new possibilities. Being open and playful can lead to great fun and passion. Surprise your lover and keep them guessing.

Have unexpected sex at the spur of the moment in an out of the ordinary places. Have a heated make out session in the car or at the movie theater.

These are only a few of the many ways to have a better sex life. An important key for maintaining excitement, passion and pleasure is to stay attentive to keeping your sex life alive. Don’t let complacency settle in and always keep your sexual relationship a priority in your life.

I believe we all have an inner sex goddess deep within ourselves. Unveiling her is a choice we can make in order to experience our aliveness and true essence. Only then can she truly connect with another human being.

All that is needed to begin to unveil your inner goddess is a little attention, not necessarily to your looks or your sexual skills, (although those will be talked about in later posts), but to the depths of your inner spirit. This is where your sex goddess resides. You will find her in your body, your heart, your mind and your spirit. A sex goddess is any woman who pursues knowledge and sensuality, while balancing all the different elements of the internal self. This includes male and female energies, and the urge for creation and for destruction at every stage of the life cycle.

Goddesses come in all shapes, sizes, colors and cultures. They are young and old; maidens, mothers and crones. They are just like us. If you are a woman it can be your journey. It may be a lengthy journey and for some of us it is a life long journey. If you decide to unveil the sex goddess within, you will begin moving forward on this path. It’s an exciting and empowering journey.

Are you ready to like what you see in the mirror and love those hips? Are you ready to walk down the street with confidence? Are you ready to finally have an orgasm and fully experience the feminine goddess power through your body because that is exactly what’s going to happen when you develop your inner sex goddess. You start to like yourself. You begin to see that the world can be a sensual place and there isn’t anything more sensual than you.

Part of finding and connecting with who you are as a goddess is by looking throughout history at other sex goddesses. These women found themselves and honored themselves as sexual and creative beings, as well as other things. These exceptional women are nothing new. The sex goddess has always existed. There is Vesta, Roman goddess of hearth, Khotun, the Siberian goddess of birth and nourisher of people who live in a lake of milk and from whose breasts, it is said, the Milky Way originated.

Goddesses are not meant to be an unattainable goal, or anything that’s outside of us to be worshiped from afar. They are a  representation of women with a wide range of experience, sexual beings, with bodies, minds, feelings and spirit just like you.

These archetypes can reveal our own inner divinity. They can help you access your own goddess power and bring it into daily life, whether in the bedroom or out of it or on your own or with a partner. The sex goddesses who came before us can help us, just as we may be able to help those who come after us. We can’t have too many sensually awakened human beings, can we?